3 DEADLY Mistakes To Avoid When On Adult Dating Sites

Have you tried online dating on adult sites?

I know internet dating may sound a little lame STILL, but we’re now at an age where meeting someone online is generally accepted as not only for geeks is real people use it.

Yes, I’m talking about real hot women also use it as well.

So that has led me to write this article about online dating specifically for adult sites.

I know there are a lot of guys out there who just are not interested in relationships – that’s perfectly fine. Maybe their lifestyle or life stage at the moment just doesn’t allow them to develop a good long term loving relationship.

But they still want to meet women and have sex in the meantime.

So what does a guy have to do in order to fill their sexual desires whilst not spending a lot of time forever wasting their time at clubs and bars where the situation and environment does NOT work in their favor?

Simple.

Go on online dating sites where women are actively looking for sexual partners and are not hung up with emotional issues about it.

That’s probably the single biggest selling point for adult online dating.
The women there are looking for sex.

Sweeeeet!

Sign me up I hear you say!?

But have you ever paused for a moment to think about what are the disadvantages?

Well, here are the main disadvantages to online dating at adult sites:

1. If you sign up for a free account only you may be bombarded with fake messages. Since it’s not a secret that online dating sites make money when you PAY for their membership, most of them lure you in by giving you a “FREE ACCOUNT” so you can check out the sexy girls on the sites and see what’s out there. Most of the time this is what happens. Since you’re restricted by most adult dating sites from sending messages to other members, you’re going to be unable to respond back to women who message you. So what a lot of sites do this is. They use fake profiles with sexy women to contact and bombard FREE members with invitations for sex… so you’ll be thinking “oh this is great, I have 10 sexy girls wanting to have sex with me and I just signed up”.

But since you’re not able to respond to their messages as a free member, you quickly upgrade your membership to the paid status. Then you start messaging all these sexy girls back, but for some reason or another NONE of them turn out to be a real sexual experience and in the end you just end up turning to internet porn.

2. The photos are sexy as hell, but when you actually meet her it’s another story. Since we live in the digital age, it’s amazing what a few touch ups with Photoshop can do with a person’s profile picture. Imagine this, you sent out 100 messages to girls over the past week and the response rate is less than you like, however there’s one girl that seems to fit your criteria and she seems to be keen for sex. So you arrange to meet up with her. When you arrive, you see a girl that kind of resembles the profile picture of the girl you saw online, but is 10 times less attractive… so what do you do now? Do you end up settling or do you think to yourself “hmm… I should have done some better quality control”.

3. You don’t even get a real response – at all. This is probably the most common problem guys face online. They just don’t know how to stand out from the rest of the crowd and get responses from women who are both attractive and hot and ready for sex. They don’t know what kind of message to send to girls to get their interest and even if a girl is interested, and checks out the profile of the guy, they see a lame profile that is either boring or creepy as hell and scares them away…

Turning Your Child Into a Mature Teenager

Somewhere around the time your child turns 8, 9, 10, or 11, he or she will discover that you are not the superhuman you always seemed to be. You will fall off the pedestal and become a human being with flaws, just like everyone else in the world. This is a devastating but necessary moment in every child’s life…it’s when they take their first steps toward recognizing themselves as separate individuals from you. It’s the beginning of the growing up process, one which will hopefully result in your child becoming a mature teen and a responsible, decent adult.

The struggle, of course, is getting from the point where they recognize you are simply human to the point where they are a mature teen without both of you tearing your hair out and disowning each other. In some families, this seems to happen naturally and easily, but it takes a lot more work that it might seem to from the outside to raise a responsible, mature teen, but there are some things you can do to help both of you get there in one piece.

Mutual Respect

Lots of parents complain that their teens are disrespectful, but earning a teen’s respect starts with you showing them how to be respectful. That means being respectful of your teen. It’s not easy; even a mature teen can be mouthy and critical and difficult to handle, but if you operate from a point of respect for your teen as an individual who is allowed to have different opinions and beliefs from yours, you will be helping to bring out the mature teen in your child. When you show respect, it’s easier to expect respect too.

Open, Honest Communication

Hiding behind your fears and insecurities will not help you raise a mature teen. No, it’s not easy to talk about sex, love, dating, life, choices, lying, homework, friends, driving, or anything else with the teen who is at an age where he or she feels invincible and omnipotent, but the more open and truthful you are with your teens the easier it will be for your teen to talk to you about the tough stuff. If they don’t talk to you about the challenges they face in life, you won’t have the opportunity to help guide them through each new challenge and help them learn how to handle it on their own.

Letting Go

It’s easy to just keep thinking you have to hold your teen’s hand every step of the way, but in truth, if you want to raise a mature teen, you have to let go and let your teen do some things independently, even if you can see that the end result will be something you would have wanted them to avoid. Letting go gradually can help make the process easier, but letting your teen have the ability to make choices and decisions while you are still there to help them deal with the consequences is an important part of raising a mature teen.

Keeping the Faith

There are days when you will wonder what that strange teenage being did with your son or daughter. Raising teens is difficult, and it does often feel like the child you gave birth to has been replaced by something much more terrifying. You and your teen will survive.

Are You Having “Good Enough” Sex?

In a previous article, “Are You Having Enough Sex?” I wrote about sex through the lens of quantity. Today, the lens is quality. Are you having “Good Enough” Sex and what does that even mean?

I’m borrowing the term “good enough sex” from a concept by the renowned psychoanalyst, Donald Winicott, who wrote about the “good enough mother.” This referred to the idea that a mother didn’t need to be perfect, only attuned well enough to sufficiently meet the child’s needs so that it could grow up and mature into adulthood. I would suggest that sex can also can be “good enough” in that it will allow the couple to connect, bond and share themselves with each other sufficiently in order to sustain a mature, adult relationship.

Practically speaking, there is a natural variation in sexual encounters with your partner. They might not always be satisfying. Sometimes you might feel like the top of your head has exploded. Sometimes you might feel disappointed, like “is that all there is?” This is normal and yet many couples hold themselves to superhuman standards of perfection, that each time must be the best time yet.

I’m recommending that you take some of the pressure off of yourself and your partner. Sometimes “good enough” sex really IS “good enough.” Some would argue that this is settling. I don’t agree. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t also have “Fourth of July Fireworks” sex, I’m only saying that over the course of time in a relationship, we want to have a sexual connection that sustains our bond in a realistic way.

There are many types of sex. There is “vacation/honeymoon” sex, there is “the kids are at the movies” sex, there is “quickie” sex and “new situation/risky” sex. There is “married people” sex which begins at 10pm on the dot on Saturday night and consists of five minutes of kissing, ten minutes of foreplay, eight minutes of intercourse, an “I love you” and a snore. You’ve all experienced different variations and can add many different types of sex as well.

What is important is some consistency and some balance between “quantity” and “quality” in the sexual arena. The sexual connection between a couple is an incredible opportunity to bond, to share, to become closer in a physical/emotional/spiritual way. And while the quality of the sexual connection varies from sex act to sex act, it truly is one of the major ingredients in the “glue” that keeps couples connected. I encourage you all to commit to more consistent sexual contact and to do your best to eliminate your judgments about quality.

That doesn’t mean you don’t want to work to improve the sexual chemistry with your partner. The research really does indicate that “practice makes perfect.” So get busy and remember, when your heart is in the right place, it will be “good enough” !

The Emergence of Adult Role Playing

Roleplaying (or “RPing”) can be described as a written collaboration among people as they each control their own character and interact with the other characters to achieve some sort of objective. Written roleplay emerged from tabletop roleplaying games (RPGs) like Dungeons & Dragons and early roleplaying games. The fictional collaboration model of forum-based role playing is essentially a traditional roleplaying game without the rigid mechanic of dice and rules. Only a few residual characteristics of forum play-by-post roleplaying points back to its tabletop predecessors, and that’s mainly its turn-based format and the “Game Master” entity responsible for controlling the pace of the RP, progression, and the non-player characters and events that happen.

The adult RPing community has taken the written RP subject and narrowed it into the niche of adult themes and sexual themes. Where a conventional roleplay could involve hobbits taking a powerful ring to the summit of a volcano, adult roleplaying involves a dance of foreplay between a man and a woman before they have sex. Or it can involve a forbidden romance, a master-slave dichotomy, or any other adult theme, usually sexual in nature.

Adult roleplaying goes by various different names that mean different things to different people. The first is “erotic roleplaying” which generally refers to role playing involving sexual themes. Erotica doesn’t have to result in sex. Another way of referring to adult RPing is “mature RP” which is more indicative of a roleplay involving adults, not necessarily sex. The third semi-synonymous for adult roleplaying is “sexual roleplaying” and often refers to the act of dressing up in costumes and pretending to be someone or something else while you have sex with your partner. In the written role play community, sexual roleplaying simply means that the collaboration involves sex. Finally, “adult roleplaying” is an all-inclusive phrase that catches all of the individual roleplay subsets above.

Despite the emergence of computer roleplaying gaming, written forum-based role playing is a growing activity, even among the youth. With the increase in roleplaying interest comes the increase in interest in all of roleplaying’s subsets, including adult RP. New adult roleplaying communities start up every day, each developing unique characteristics and community attitudes of their own.

Adult Dating Advice – Successful and Safe Online Dating

Adult dating has re-emerged and it is certainly proving wildly popular. Adult dating was once relegated solely to magazines and tabloids and the impersonal nature of such advertisements made it difficult to expand in popularity.

With the advent of online dating services that cater to adult oriented pursuits, more and more people are looking towards adult personals sites for their pursuits. However, a little bit of adult dating advice is required prior to venturing into an adult dating service. Following this advice will certainly improve your chances to succeed with these dating ventures significantly.

Firstly, you need to maintain privacy in your identity when entering an adult personals site. Honestly, the best adult dating advice that could be offered is to maintain the secrecy of your identity from those you would prefer not to receive it.

This means you need to keep your profile general and avoid from doing anything that would clearly present any clues as to your real identity. This is true of all dating sites but it is even truer when dealing with a site that caters to adults. So, use prudence in your profile creation so as to avoid giving away clues about who you are.

You will also need to take a few additional steps to secure your privacy when you make your profile. In particular, you want to be very careful with how you add photos. You need to present enough of yourself so people get a clear idea of what you look like as there needs to be an attraction factor present or you will not find too many responses.

However, it is advised to obscure your face in some way if you’re not comfortable in letting the world know what you look like and so as to protect you identity. Some may not worry about revealing what their face looks like but this will reveal to others pretty much who you are to those that may know you. Just do what you deem best.

When it comes to meeting people, you need to be a little alert as to their stability. Yes, this may sound like odd advice but we are talking about adult dating advice and that means you may be dealing with fetishists and others that may have unique tastes.

This means you need to be a little more judicious in your screening process for potential paramours. The best way to do this is spend a few instant messaging sessions getting a feel for the interested person and when you feel comfortable meet for a coffee date.

Some may not think that an adult dating service is the best place to look for a coffee date but you will definitely wish to meet someone in person to get to know them prior to venturing into further amorous adventures.